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Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.
Proverbs 11:14
At the onset of my marriage crisis, I found hope knowing I wasn’t alone in seeking external counsel. I was even encouraged to learn that my wife had started therapy at a well-known “Christian” counseling center. But as time passed, I noticed a troubling pattern—the more she engaged with this counseling, the further she drifted from both our marriage and the Lord.
I had assumed Christian counseling would lead her closer to God. After all, the message of Scripture is about reconciliation, and I expected any Christian counselor to promote that truth. I was wrong.
While researching the center, I came across a particular counselor’s bio that raised immediate concerns. Her credentials leaned heavily into secular and new-age ideologies, yet ironically, “spiritual growth” was listed among her specialties. It became clear that her version of spirituality had little to do with biblical truth.
As my wife continued these sessions, I saw her embrace worldly mantras like “DREAM BIG” and “YOU DO YOU.” Instead of being pointed to the cross, she was encouraged to prioritize herself. After each session, she became more confrontational, her attitude reflecting anything but the Spirit of the Lord.
Realizing the damage these influences were causing, I committed to intense prayer, asking God to remove harmful voices from her life. Over time, He faithfully did just that. As those influences faded, the Lord replaced them with wise and godly believers who helped guide her back to Him. I will always be grateful for their role in our restoration.
For the wisdom of this world is folly with God. For it is written, “He catches the wise in their craftiness.”
1 Corinthians 3:19
Looking back, my wife acknowledges how destructive worldly counsel was. Had she been open to God’s discernment, much heartache could have been avoided. Unfortunately, prodigals often reject biblical wisdom, preferring counsel that justifies their choices.
If you’re in a marriage crisis, be discerning about where you seek advice. If it feeds your pride or justifies resentment, it is not from the Lord. True wisdom comes only from Him—submit to His voice, and He will guide you toward lasting restoration and fulfillment.
In Christ,
Tommy Larson
Tommy,
I am so sorry that “Christian” counseling by this particular counselor caused so much damage. I know that in my own situation that there have been counselors (christian and not) that have not been helpful. I agree that we who claim to be followers of Christ should filter EVERYTHING through His word. I would hate for someone to become fearful though of not reaching out for professional help when needed because of the belief that all counselors are ungodly. That is not true. I would encourage anyone who seeks any type of counsel (friends, family, church, or from professionals) that they never take what is said as truth without checking it to the word of God and with prayer.